Strong Women, Submissive Women

Strong Women, Submissive Women

Do you know a sexy, strong woman at your place of work? Perhaps she's a manager or business owner. Maybe she's a salesperson that works with your company or she represents a vendor. Do you want to know a little secret about her? She's very likely demure and submissive in the bedroom!

What's that? How can that be? She's a real ball-buster during the day!

Sure, that's her persona during the day, but studies show that the vast majority of women shift roles when it comes to their emotional/sexual lives; with a distinct direction: from dominance to submission. This seems like a strange dichotomy, but stick with me here.

While many women are terrified of others knowing this fact, most women prefer a submissive bedroom role. I'm not going to go into all the science behind this, but it's an important thing to understand if you're actually attracted to one of these "strong-by-day, submissive-by-night" types of women.

Let's say that you want to approach one of these girls. How do you do it? First, if you're already the CEO or VP of your company, you have a much stronger chance of being accepted than if not. It's unfortunate, but the stronger a woman is (and the higher her position within a company) the more men she'll cut out of her "potential date" list. That doesn't mean you have no chance however.

The approach here is one of strength and confidence - much more so than other women. The reason is that these women want to be with men they perceive as even stronger than they are. This is a critical element in the approach because it has to be just as strong and confident. If you waiver here, you're not going to get a second chance.

Your approach isn't one of "Hey, want to go have drinks after dinner?" Instead, you want to say something like, "I don't know what your plans are for Friday, but cancel them. I'm taking you out for drinks. I'll pick you up at 8 sharp." This is a very powerful position to take, but trust me; it's the correct one for this girl.

You have to be able to carry this confidence into dating too. When you date a strong woman be ready to show even more strength and have more direction than her! This is a tall order for many men, but having clear, concise goals and an understanding of these rules helps to make it easier. Be goal-oriented and know what you want with her. If you don't, she's liable to walk all over you and impose her goals right up to showing you the door.

One other thing you'll find with these strong women is that you'll get Tested () more often and with greater intensity. This challenge is simply to prove that you're still the powerful guy you appeared to be during the initial approach. It may last well into the relationship by the way! If you falter on these Tests, you might just lose her completely.

So, after all this work, what's the benefit to you? Simple - a devoted, loyal, willing and happy girlfriend! Someone that will easily take your lead anywhere you want to go be it in the relationship or in the bedroom. These women are very special and any man that can win her is in for a real treat. She tends to be sexually adventurous, creative and enthusiastic - more so than most women. She'll continue to give you reasons to trust her because she is paying you back for being the man of her dreams. She'll even become the woman you've dreamed of all your life simply because she wants to make you happy.

You just have to make it past all the initial suspicion and challenge you'll get; but trust me, it's worth it.

Why do these strong women want to be submissive in the bedroom and the relationship? There are many subtle answers but most of it comes right down to natural wiring. Feeling safe and secure in a relationship is a critical element for all women. If you think about this, isn't just about every aspect of men's relationships with women involved with proving this security? You bet it is!

Now, obviously this doesn't apply to every strong woman - especially if her strength is born out of fear of weakness; but it's true of most. You can safely approach strong women with the belief that they're looking for an even stronger man so that they can melt into the comfort of the willing, submissive role - until proven otherwise.

Best regards.

Courtesy: http://www.romancestuck.com/drdennisneder/strongsubmissive.htm

Michelle Obama as a submissive woman

By Yael T. Abouhalkah, Kansas City Star Editorial Page columnist

Meeting with KC area women today, Michelle Obama said she told husband Obama "No way. Absolutely not," when he brought up running for president. But then what happened?

Michelle Obama caved. She gave in after -- she said -- she thought about her daughters' futures.

"I had no choice," she told the KC audience.

Sorry, not exactly true.

Michelle Obama did have a choice. She's not a wallflower. She's an accomplished professional herself.

So Michelle Obama could have tried a number of tactics to get her husband to stop his plans to run for presidency.

The big one, of course, would have entailed walking out the door.

But she didn't do any of that. Why not?

First, I'm sure she thinks Barack would do a great job as president.

And second, it's apparent that Michelle Obama likes the spotlight, wants to talk about important issues and doesn't mind at all being given large forums to do that.

Courtesy: http://voices.kansascity.com/node/1620

Good sex makes you better at your job: study

Published: 4 Jun 09 17:12 CET

Online: http://www.thelocal.se/19880/20090604/

A new Swedish study shows that a healthy emotional and sexual relationship can significantly reduce stress at work.

Ann-Christine Andersson Arntén is a psychology doctoral student from the University of Gothenburg. She conducted a five-year-long study on the effects of partner relations on work stress. Andersson Arntén said that people’s home lives can either help alleviate stress at work or push people over the edge.

“Either you come home to something that gives you a possibility to rewind and recover or you have a relationship that makes you more troubled,” she told The Local.

“If that’s the case than you cannot recover, and your whole system physically and mentally will become unbalanced. It will start to become more and more unhealthy and could end up in depression, anxiety, or sleeping problems.”

About 900 male and female participants completed surveys in which they were asked to categorize their relationship in one of three categories: good, average, and bad.

They were then asked to rate whether their relationship had a positive or negative effect on their work life. The results for women were as expected. Women in good relationships had less stress at work, and ones in bad relationships had more work stress. However, the surprise finding was in the men’s group.

“With men we found the average group experienced the most stress-related problems at work,” Andersson Arntén explained.

“When we talked to the men, they said that when it’s in-between, you have to put more effort into it. You keep doing that until the relationship either becomes better or hopeless. When you get to that point, it doesn’t really affect your health anymore.”

The study also found that men were often more interested in the frequency of sex than women, who were more inclined to value the quality of sexual relations.

Andersson Arntén said the survey results also dismiss the myth that men completely separate work life and private life. She said that men are not the only ones who can benefit from the results of the study.

“People should look at the whole picture,” she said. “For employees, there is an interaction between work and family. If the family life is bad, you pay the consequences. You cannot separate the two.”

She also had a few words of advice for people who are struggling in their relationships.

“Sometimes you need a nutmeg of passion, an extra thing to spice things up in the relationship.”

Andersson Arntén will present her dissertation about this study on Friday at the University of Gothenburg. She will also conduct another study in late August to get a better picture of why this study had the unexpected results.

Laura Xiao (laura.xiao@thelocal.se)

Courtesy: http://www.thelocal.se/19880/20090604/

Gender equality in Sweden

Sweden has one of the highest levels of gender equality in the world. This is based on the belief that a more just and democratic society results from women and men sharing power and influence equally. A well developed welfare system makes it easier for both sexes to balance their work and family life.

Gender equality is a cornerstone of Swedish society. It means that women and men have the same opportunities, rights and obligations in all areas of life. It implies that they can work and support themselves, combine work and care of their children on the same terms, and that neither sex in a relationship need worry about being subjected to abuse or violence.

In the Global Gender Gap Report 2008, Sweden was one of the world leaders in equality. The report, drawn up at the initiative of the World Economic Forum, measures equality in four areas: economics, politics, education and health. It can be read at www.weforum.org.

Parental leave

In Sweden, a parental allowance is paid out for a total of 480 days when a child is born or adopted. Women claim most of the days. In 2008, men claimed about 20 percent of parental leave.

Parental allowance is taxed like other income and counts toward pensions. For 390 of the 480 days, the amount is the same as for sickness benefit; 80 percent of benefits-based income, depending on how much you earn. The maximum parental allowance is SEK 874 (about USD 110) a day. For the remaining 90 days the allowance is SEK 180 a day in the case of children born on July 1, 2006, or later, otherwise the allowance is SEK 60.

Each parent has 60 days of leave reserved specifically for him or her, which means these days cannot be transferred to the other parent.

The father of a newborn baby gets 10 extra days’ leave in connection with the birth of their child. With the birth of twins, a father is entitled to 20 days’ leave. A parent adopting a child is entitled to take leave from work for 1.5 years from the time the child comes under his or her care.

The educational system

Gender teaching is increasingly common in Swedish preschools. The aim is to give children the same opportunities in life, regardless of their sex, through teaching methods that allow each child to grow into a unique individual.

The Swedish government has appointed a committee of inquiry to plan and implement measures aimed at boosting gender equality in school, upper secondary school and adult education. On average, girls in Sweden have consistently higher grades than boys. In the past two decades, girls have caught up with boys in mathematics and science.

A greater proportion of women than men complete their upper secondary education. Women constitute roughly 60 percent of all students in undergraduate university studies.

Almost two-thirds of all degrees are awarded to women. Significantly more women than men participate in adult education. In postgraduate studies, women now constitute almost half of all new students.

They also account for about 48 percent of doctoral degrees, a figure that is steadily increasing.

Four ombudsmen become one

The Discrimination Ombudsman was established in 2009 to replace the Equal Opportunities Ombudsman, the Ombudsman against Ethnic Discrimination, the Disability Ombudsman and the Ombudsman against Discrimination because of Sexual Orientation.

At the same time, the seven anti-discrimination laws were replaced by a single law, the Discrimination Act. These legislative changes were introduced to give citizens stronger and broader protection against discrimination. New provisions were introduced prohibiting discrimination due to age and transgender identity or expression.

The Discrimination Ombudsman reviews rights concerning gender equality in the workplace, in the school system and in certain other areas, including employment.

The ombudsman oversees compliance with the following government laws:

1. The Discrimination Act combats discrimination due to sex, transgender identity or expression, ethnicity, religion, disability, sexual orientation or age.

2. The Act concerning Equal Treatment of Students in Higher Education

3. The Act Prohibiting Discrimination and Other Degrading Treatment of Children and School Students includes preschools, schools for students with intellectual disabilities, and childcare facilities.

4. The Parental Leave Act mainly concerns the prohibition of discrimination against one sex or the other.

Sweden has come a long way in making sure that women and men are treated equally in the workplace.

The Discrimination Act has two main sections dealing with gender equality in the workplace. First, there is the requirement that all employers must work actively and pursue specific goals to promote equality between men and women. Second, the law prohibits discrimination and obliges employers to investigate and take measures against harassment. Employers should not treat unfairly any employee or job applicant who is, has been or will be on parental leave.

Pay differentials between men and women can largely be explained by differences in their profession, sector, position, work experience and age. There are also pay differentials that cannot be explained in this way but may be attributable to gender. These are called unjustified pay differentials. On average, women’s monthly salaries are 93 percent of men’s when differences in choice of profession and sector are taken into account. Pay differentials are most pronounced in the private sector.

Economic and political power

The government’s gender eqality policy is twofold: to ensure power and resources are fairly distributed between the sexes, and to create the conditions that give women and men the same power and opportunities.

In professional life, the proportion of women in top posts is increasing. The percentage of women heading Swedish private limited companies (with more than one employee, excluding the managing director) was 26 percent in 2007. This represents an increase of 17 percentage points since 1990. The proportion of women on the boards of listed companies is also increasing, having risen from 6 percent in 2002 to 18 percent in 2006. The figures are higher in the public sector.

The majority — 52 percent — of managers in municipal, county council and central government are women. Almost half (47 percent) of all Swedish members of parliament and 10 out of 22 government ministers are women. Among elected politicians in municipalities and county councils, women comprise 41 percent.

Mainstreaming

Mainstreaming is a term used in Sweden and elsewhere to describe the incorporation of a gender equality perspective into the work of government agencies at all levels. The idea is that gender equality is not a separate, isolated issue but a continual process.

Thorough statistics

In Sweden all official statistics are collected, analyzed and presented by gender. Quantitative gender equality means equal distribution (50/50) between men and women in all areas of society. Qualitative gender equality means that the knowledge and experience of both men and women is to be taken into consideration and made use of to promote progress in all areas of society.

Violence against women

In 2008, about 28,000 cases of male violence against women were recorded. The number of reported cases has risen over the years, with more women daring to make a complaint. Legislation in this sphere changed in the early 1980s, making it impossible for women to withdraw an allegation.

Women who need help can turn to Roks, the national organization for women’s and girls’ shelters in Sweden, the Swedish Association of Women’s Shelters or All Women’s House, Sweden’s largest shelter association.

There are some 160 shelters in Sweden, largely run by volunteers. In Stockholm, Operation Peace for Women also promotes cooperation between agencies and organizations that are in contact with women exposed to violence.

Courtesy: http://www.sweden.se/eng/Home/Society/Equality/Facts/Gender-equality-in-Sweden2/